Slipup #4. “We didn't know where to sit!”
Our next in the "5 slipups that can spoil your reception" series is: when guests don't know where to sit, don't feel comfortable finding a seat, or when there aren't enough seats for the type of meal being served.
Whether or not you decide to assign seating for the wedding reception, you should make it easy for your guests to find a place to sit.
Our rule of thumb is to always provide 100% seating for any full meal, whether it is plated or buffet. This means you need to have a table and a chair for every person (including children) coming to the wedding if you are serving brunch, lunch, or dinner, no matter HOW the guest gets their food.
If you decide to have an informal, hors d'oeuvres reception, where you want people to stand and mix and mingle, we recommend keeping seating to no more than 50%. This is because, the closer you approach 100% seating, the weirder it is to have a few people who do not have a chair and table space. Mix and mingle parties are far less popular than those with 100% seating. Know your group before trying a casual,mix-and-mingle wedding. Err on the side of comfort if you aren't sure which way to go.
If you aren't assigning seats, we recommend having 5-10% more seating than your RSVP count. This is because, unless you tell people where to sit, groups do not always break down into neat tables of 6, 8, or 10 (or whatever table type you and your venue are providing). The wasted seats add up and can result in a large family or group of friends standing in a corner saying, "There aren't enough seats for us to sit together," even though you provided exactly the number equal to your RSVP count.
If you assign seats, make sure your method of directing guests to their table is intuitive, and easy to understand. Escort cards or a large seating board are the two most popular ways to do this.
Whether you choose a seating board on an easel over escort cards, make sure to list the names in alphabetical order, rather than by table, to make it easier for guests to find their location.
Also, make sure to give your coordinator or venue manager a copy of the master seating list, in case an escort card accidentally does not print out. In addition, the master list can help your coordinator or venue manager find empty spots in case there are last-minute changes. Let this person also be in charge of helping guests find their spots in case there are any questions. There's nothing worse than a guest not being able to find their name on the list and feeling like they were forgotten!
Photos courtesy EJP Events.
Tomorrow: Join us on Portland Wedding Coordinator for the final Slipup, #5: "The bartender wouldn't serve me!"
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